I recently had a client tell me she feels like she’s a thin person trapped inside body that is continually struggling with weight. I knew just what she was talking about. Knowing on the inside I was a thin person with all the skills to reach my goal and maintain it. But the outside person was in control and wreaking havoc on my body.
Can you relate to this? Do you ever wonder how did I get here? How am I this person eats way too much one day, beats myself up about it only to do it again the very next day?
The reason is simple. Or really, it’s the REASON that you’re missing. What is your compelling reason to lose weight? I want to feel better. I want to look better. Whatever your reason is, it’s not compelling enough.
Compelling – adjective defined as:
- evoking interest, attention, or admiration in a powerfully irresistible way
- not able to be refuted; inspiring conviction
- not able to be resisted; overwhelming
Does your compelling reason excite you? Does it make you think I’m going to do this not matter what? Or, is it just something you want to do? It would be nice if it happened. You need to look at your reason honestly. If it doesn’t meet the definition above, it’s not compelling enough to reach your goal.
Weight loss requires change. All change requires discomfort. You need a powerful reason to meet that discomfort head-on and keep going. You need to be compelled to carry out the change.
Let’s say your current reason is, I want to look good in a bathing suit. Let’s dig into that reason. Ask yourself why. Why do I want to look good in a bathing suit? Perhaps the answer is, I want to feel comfortable at the community pool. Dig deeper, why do I want to feel comfortable at the community pool? Ask yourself why at least five times. Dig really deep. Your brain will want to say I don’t know. Think hard. Get to the underlying reason. Maybe after all that digging your reason is, I want my husband to think I look as good as the other women by the pool. That’s compelling.
Once you’ve got your compelling reason keep reminding yourself of it. It’s the reason that will get you through the discomfort.